Change is never easy. Sure, it’s exciting and it provides you with new ways to live your life, but it definitely isn’t easy. Your twenties is a time of your life when everything seems to be changing – your friends are coupling up and getting increasingly less enthusiastic about doing shots of sambuca at 2am on a Wednesday night – and if you’re honest, the idea of vegging out to Netflix on your sofa wrapped in a duvet sounds quite appealing to you as well. Here are three of the biggest life changes that might happen to you in your twenties and how best to handle them…
For a lot of people, the first thing they do after university – or if they choose not to go to university – is to start frantically job hunting. Even if your number one plan is actually to go travelling in Thailand or move to Australia, you’ll probably be aware that you need to earn a bit of money beforehand to make it possible. Working your way up is a distinct possibility, so broaden your horizons when you’re job hunting and apply for things that aren’t completely ideal to you. They’ll increase the amount of experience you have and make your CV look a lot more beefed up, meaning in turn that the second your dream job is advertised, you’ll be in with more of a chance of getting it. You have to do things that you don’t like to find out what you do like.
Actually working is a lot easier said than done. It can be exhausting – you need to make sure that you sleep enough, that you eat healthily, that you don’t start burning the candle at both ends. Networking is crucial so make sure that you go to work related events and actually talk to people there instead of standing awkwardly by the drinks table.
Leaving home is something that far fewer people are doing these days thanks to financial pressures, but if you’ve managed it then congratulations! True independence awaits you. But first of all, you need to make sure that you’re financially secure. Living alone can be extremely expensive, from decorating your flat (do not under any circumstances max out your credit card at Urban Outfitters) to any bills that you might not have had to pay before. Make sure that you budget extremely carefully every month and remember that living with a flatmate or a friend isn’t an admission that you can’t handle it – it’s a good idea to share the financial burden of living away from home with a couple of people.
Falling In Love
As you get through your twenties, you’ll probably notice that your Facebook feed is littered with engagement rings and, even more frighteningly, babies. Even if you don’t feel as though you’re nearly at that stage of your life yet, it’s probably best not to stare at your friends who have made those choices with too much open horror.
In your twenties it can be harder to meet people than it was when you were at school or university – and let’s face it, there’s nothing like looking at the almost-cute bloke who sits opposite you at work try and fail to understand spreadsheets for the fourth day in a row to put you off him. Using dating apps is the number one way to meet someone when you’re out of your teens, although of course there’s some trial and error involved! Trust me, I know!